Double-check your etiquette before sending compliments to the (home) chef.
Some things are better left unsaid.
But sometimes, it’s the delivery of a comment where things go awry.
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Tone, timing and body language all contribute to the way remarks are perceived.
This actually tastes good!
What’s the secret?
A good question to ask may be, “Where or from whom did you learn this recipe?
It’s delicious!”
This is the equivalent to calling your mom’s new haircut “different.”
It’s not the most reassuring sentiment.
Even if the remark rings true, try opting for more supportive phrasing.
Applaud the complex nature of the dish or thank them for the time they spent pulling it together.
I’m not hungry.
Sometimes it’s inevitable.
Try making a small plate of side dishes or grabbing a plate to save for later.
Use more [insert ingredient here] next time.
So, you’re a kitchen maven and the friend everyone calls with questions aboutroasting a turkeyandfeeding sourdough starters.
If they ask for feedback, by all means, offer your best constructive criticism!
But, balance your solicited criticism with compliments, and take into account the disposition of your host.
Tone makes or breaks this one.
Depending on your approach, this could be perceived as either a complimentary question or a passive-aggressive remark.
Or offer to bring a dish of your own.
But bluntly asking if a meal is healthy is unclear and may put your host in an uncomfortable position.
